Are You Basic?

Embracing the Basics: A Journey of Being a “Basic” Mom 

 Welcome to my corner of the internet, where I proudly embrace the essence of being a “basic” mom. In a world that often glorifies complex parenting strategies and high-pressure lifestyles, I’m here to celebrate the beauty of simplicity. Being basic is often used as a negative term, but over here, we use it as a term of endearment. There’s nothing better than bringing it back to the basics, refocusing, and recentering on what is actually important and what makes us happy. 

Embracing the Simple Joys of Motherhood 

As a basic mom, I’ve come to realize that the simple joys in life are often the most meaningful. From cozy mornings spent cuddling with my little ones to afternoon walks in the park, it’s the small moments that truly matter. Through embracing simplicity, I’ve learned to slow down, savor each moment, and find gratitude in the everyday. I used to feel like I had to schedule every moment and that free time wasn’t good because there was so much that could be done and entertainment to provide for my kids. Now, we spend Sundays at home. We go to church in the morning, and then each one of us gets to pick something small we love, and we indulge in that. For me, it’s a third cup of coffee, however unnecessary, for my kids sometimes it’s McDonalds, an outdoor fort or baking. We all just pick something small that provides happiness, and we lean in.  

Celebrating Imperfection 

Let’s face it – no mom has it all together, and that’s perfectly okay. As a basic mom, I’ve learned to embrace imperfection and let go of the pressure to be picture-perfect. From messy hair days to chaotic mealtimes, I’ve come to appreciate the beauty in life’s imperfections. After all, it’s our flaws that make us uniquely human. My kids don’t care whether I have makeup on or my hair curled, they just want to know that I’m there amidst the crazy to celebrate them and all of their imperfections too. It may be cliche, but what I tell my kids is the same as that of Thomas Edison. We didn’t fail, we have just found unique ways that something won’t work and we are continuing on with our imperfections in a very imperfect world.  

Finding Balance As a Mom 

In a world filled with endless responsibilities, finding balance can feel like a daunting task. However, as a basic mom, I’ve discovered the importance of prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries. Whether it’s carving out time for a bubble bath or saying no to unnecessary commitments, finding balance is essential for both my well-being and my family’s. I will admit that saying no isn’t my strongest attribute. I am, by nature and in my chosen career, a caregiver. I need people to need me, and I want to fix things…. but I can’t, and not only that, but it isn’t my responsibility, too. Leaning into balance and focusing on myself and my needs has been incredibly challenging and rewarding. I am not perfect in this, but I choose to commit every day to myself and my own mental health, and so far, it’s been working…. enough! 

Embracing Community

As a basic mom, I’ve found strength and support in the community of fellow moms. Whether it’s swapping parenting tips at the playground or venting about the challenges of motherhood over coffee, having a supportive community is invaluable. Together, we lift each other up, celebrate victories, and navigate the ups and downs of parenting with love and compassion. I have found a sense of community not just with those who have children the same age as my own but also with those who have children much older. It has been an invaluable part of my journey to have these women not only support me but also be open about their struggles and issues, whether they are similar to my own or not. Sometimes, parenting can feel very lonely, but it shouldn’t be! Finding your people makes a huge difference, and I promise there are many other parents out there struggling, too.  

Being a basic mom isn’t about striving for perfection or keeping up with the latest trends. It’s about embracing simplicity, finding joy in the every day, and cherishing the moments that truly matter.
So here’s to all the basic moms out there – you are enough, just as you are. Let’s continue to embrace the basics and celebrate the beauty of motherhood together.